I ended up in much the same position, and still think its worth it. > Even in countries with extreme demographic problems (SK and Japan), men still expect the

I ended up in much the same position, and still think its worth it. > Even in countries with extreme demographic problems (SK and Japan), men still expect the women to take over the main duties of parenthood. Maybe that is why they have extreme demographic problems? People choose to have kids for personal reasons, not demographic ones. Why can we not have that cultural change? We managed the one that allowed women to do men's work? Everyones wins. men get the joy of full participation in their kids lives, women are not landed with all the work, and children get better parenting.