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Lonely people are weird because there's no social feedback loop, a lot of teachings are "self-taught" (for example how not to be an asshole), and even in engine
by wigglyartichoke 2y ago
Lonely people are weird because there's no social feedback loop, a lot of teachings are "self-taught" (for example how not to be an asshole), and even in engineering there's a "different" way self-taught engineers think
For a lot people this lack of a feedback loop started as children. In the worst cases, where there's child hood abuse and neglect, any seeking out of positive feedbacks either goes unheard or punished
The feedback loop reinforces itself in the short-term because being lonely and staying in the "hell you know" is better than dealing with the social failure, which might "prove" you don't belong in society and it will never change
Breaking the negative feedback loop is the hardest thing to do especially being born into it
- valec 2y agowell, thankfully there are tools [1] 1. https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-023-06204-3 https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-023-06204-3
- doublerabbit 2y ago> Breaking the negative feedback loop is the hardest thing to do especially being born into it And it doesn't happen overnight. It's taken myself five years just to be at a level where by you can defensively stand for myself and look at myself in the mirror and be pleased at where I am. The only support being my mother.
- Der_Einzige 2y agoHence why the term “oversocialization” is more real than ever. Autists don’t deserve the hell they get just because everyone else around them was over socialized. It’s telling that these days, the majority of real advancements in the world are done by people with ASD. Maybe the world should try being nicer to them.
- valec 2y agoterms like "oversocialized" suggest you spend too much time on imageboards and you would do well to get off those sites. same with "humiliation ritual"
- Der_Einzige 2y agotu quoque
- johnnyanmac 2y ago>Autists don’t deserve the hell they get Sure. > Maybe the world should try being nicer to them. That's hard because of negativity bias. 90% of the world can be nice, but that 10% will stick out like a sore thumb. That strategy of "be nice" works on a micro level, but not macro.