Yes, exactly. As an adult, I realize how and why everything happened the way it did. But what I still don't understand is how to fix it. How do you radically c

Yes, exactly. As an adult, I realize how and why everything happened the way it did. But what I still don't understand is how to fix it. How do you radically change yourself, especially when the thing you're trying to change negatively affects your ability to do so?