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Whenever I go to someone for advice or an opinion on something I'm working on, I look for people who aren't afraid to tell me I've done something wrong, somethi
by Sunlis 14y ago
Whenever I go to someone for advice or an opinion on something I'm working on, I look for people who aren't afraid to tell me I've done something wrong, something looks bad, or the whole idea is just plain garbage.
Instead, what you get is people half-heartedly telling you, "Oh, that's really something."
I'm not a baby, people. Tell me what you hate about it so I can make it better! You can't fix bugs if no one reports them.
Unfortunately, this mentality gets me into a lot of trouble with my girlfriend, who is a Graphic Designer. She'll show me something she's working on, and I tell her what I would want to hear: "That face looks funny", or "I don't like that colour". What she takes from it is, "I hate everything about what you just showed me."
- adavies42 14y agosounds like asker/guesser striking again (<http://ask.metafilter.com/55153/Whats-the-middle-ground-between-FU-and-Welcome#830421> http://ask.metafilter.com/55153/Whats-the-middle-ground-betw...). i've had a job implode, and endless relationship friction, because i'm an asker all the way (as i expect are most people here). are you and your gf (and the people you ask for advice) from different cultures at all? (could be america/canadia, new york/midwest, or just that you're a normal geek and she isn't.)
- Sunlis 14y agoSame cultures, mostly. All people from Ontario, Canada (at varying latitudes). She's not quite as geeky as I am, but still much more so than most women I interact with. It has caused some friction in our relationship, but I just try to remember to preface my "I don't like this part" comment with a "That looks great, but..."