Let's have a beer but I want to give you some feedback too: When someone says something, it's a good idea to assume they are not lying to you, even when it's s

Let's have a beer but I want to give you some feedback too: When someone says something, it's a good idea to assume they are not lying to you, even when it's something you disagree with. So when you read on the internet "this has happened to me every time and happens to every scientist I know," you should read that as though it is coming from someone who is positioned to make that statement. From that point, if you disagree (which you do), make the content of your disagreement clear. Something like this works great: "I don't think this is true - they mostly have real context to add." Then we will have something to discuss that is narrow enough to have a fruitful dialogue that expands the point of contention for the readers, and opens the door to higher effort from your interlocutor. Debate (including online debate) is not for the participants, but for the third parties. Start with an assumption of good faith even if you don't like the wording. Then, respond in good faith back and you will get the discussion you want.