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and...if we are being bullshit free, we should stop asking "how are you?" unless we really want to know. I do wonder, though, what the author would rather we u

and...if we are being bullshit free, we should stop asking "how are you?" unless we really want to know. I do wonder, though, what the author would rather we used for quick informal greetings used to acknowledge the presence of another person? Would "good morning" suffice? or should we be bullshit free as well and if we are having a lousy one say "Bad morning"?

spinchange 14y ago
The fact is humans do not and cannot live a bullshit-free existence. Some degree of it, including self-deception, is inherent to us all and like lubrication for day-to-day existence and interaction with other humans. I think the author basically intended to affirm another Svbtle author's candid and personal revelations by saying we should all be so honest. A few straw men about small talk never killed anyone. :)
- countessa 14y ago
  >>I think the author basically intended to affirm another Svbtle author's candid and personal revelations by saying we should all be so honest. aah okay - I missed that. Pretty long winded +1. As to honesty - well, there is a time and a place for the kind of honesty that just puts it all out there and a time and a place for an abbreviated version. Not every interaction requires the in-depth/verbose honesty because every interaction has its context.....for example - checkout girl - you aren't really going to spill your guts to her when she greets you with a cheery "How you doin' today?". It would be a bit weird to respond "yeah, I'm not so good actually, let me tell you all about it" "Um...okaaaay, that'l be $25.95 please". anyhooooo staw men small talk, just my thoughts. :)
  - spinchange 14y ago
    I totally get where you're coming from and felt the same way. Perhaps I am reading too much into, and someone evidently disagrees with me because getting downvoted and buried but I was trying to bridge your reaction (which i share) with where I thought the OP was coming from.
jkubicek 14y ago
I have stopped asking "how are you", I've started saying, "I hope you are well"... because I do hope you are well. Though you aren't, I don't care to hear about it.

spinchange 14y ago

The fact is humans do not and cannot live a bullshit-free existence. Some degree of it, including self-deception, is inherent to us all and like lubrication for day-to-day existence and interaction with other humans. I think the author basically intended to affirm another Svbtle author's candid and personal revelations by saying we should all be so honest. A few straw men about small talk never killed anyone. :)

countessa 14y ago
>>I think the author basically intended to affirm another Svbtle author's candid and personal revelations by saying we should all be so honest. aah okay - I missed that. Pretty long winded +1. As to honesty - well, there is a time and a place for the kind of honesty that just puts it all out there and a time and a place for an abbreviated version. Not every interaction requires the in-depth/verbose honesty because every interaction has its context.....for example - checkout girl - you aren't really going to spill your guts to her when she greets you with a cheery "How you doin' today?". It would be a bit weird to respond "yeah, I'm not so good actually, let me tell you all about it" "Um...okaaaay, that'l be $25.95 please". anyhooooo staw men small talk, just my thoughts. :)
- spinchange 14y ago
  I totally get where you're coming from and felt the same way. Perhaps I am reading too much into, and someone evidently disagrees with me because getting downvoted and buried but I was trying to bridge your reaction (which i share) with where I thought the OP was coming from.

jkubicek 14y ago

I have stopped asking "how are you", I've started saying, "I hope you are well"... because I do hope you are well. Though you aren't, I don't care to hear about it.