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You just don't talk about it with them. You can't change the mind of someone who doesn't care what's real. The problem comes down to consequences. He can run h
by jalapenos 2y ago
You just don't talk about it with them. You can't change the mind of someone who doesn't care what's real.
The problem comes down to consequences. He can run his mouth and basically second-hand-make-up how he says reality is, and he gets to enjoy the benefits of that, whatever those may be (e.g. being able to pretend he's smarter and more moral than he is).
But he suffers no costs for it. In fact, he imposes all the costs on you - it's bothering you enough you're posting on the internet about how much mental and emotional effort you're spending arguing with him.
This is why there should be way more of people putting their money where their mouths are, or else being called cowards. Wagers should become commonplace - skin in the game.
E.g. if you're talking about a point of law, that's easy to get an objective answer on. Agree with him that you'll pick a lawyer at random, and put the question to them.
The loser has to either pay $1 and admit they were wrong publicly (plus the lawyer's fee), or pay $10k if they refuse to admit it even after that (or held on trust for a charity or whatever).
And be sure to get it in writing so the weasel can't squirm out of it.
- smeej 2y agoHe's my brother. And the last of my three siblings still alive. Had I known this was his perspective ahead of time, I would never have brought it up, and I never will again, but he's not just some random person being wrong on the internet. He's someone I grew up with, shared my whole life with. I think being upset to find out not only does he think we live in different realities, but he thinks mine is populated by heartless bastards is pretty fair.
- jalapenos 2y agoYeah the "he" in my example is really me thinking of specific recalcitrant toerags I've had to deal with before. You could try asking your brother's motivations/feelings rather than the facts, since that's what's driving it.