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How to convince my parents that masters in IT in Nepal is not worth the hassle?
I am from south asian country.
Parents are forcing me to do masters in data science and analytics. I want to do masters, but not in my home nation. And I don't really have money for doing it in Europe/US. My best bet has been on getting Assistantships and merit-based scholarships per semester. However, I do realize it's extremely competitive and luck is a huge factor as I've some friends who got C grades in engineering getting RA in the USA.
I've a bachelors degree in computer science. And I must say it left a lot to be desired for me in terms of both knowledge and grades.
Pros of masters degree:
- Get good grades and apply for abroad for scholarship.(But extremely impossible to get good grades with full time job).
- Good connections in data field as there will be lots of eager to learn students.
- I've been self learning stuffs like data structures, algorithms, database, programming, distributed system etc. This degree will provide me with a structured approach to learn all these.
Cons of degree:
- No free time.
- Money wasted upto 7-8 lakhs. The cost of masters degree is only 4 lakhs, but I would need a laptop/desktop+books and it'll definitely amount to that much. (Note: 1 lakh=1000 us dollars). (Surprise, there are no libraries in my country)
- Can't seek a better job while at studies due to lack of time, so I'll be stuck with a job that pays me 300$/mo for the next 2-3 years..
- Extra unnecessary pressure of assignments, exams, internals, project etc on top of job. The job is lax though.
- No time for self learning.
If I join masters degree, this would be my schedule:
6 am wake up
6.30 am- 9.30 am-->Classes of masters degree
9.30 am-10.00 am-->Reach office
10.00 am-6.00 pm-->Work
6.00 pm-9:00 pm-->Self study at study room
As you can see this is extremely unrealistic and unhealthy schedule. However my parents think "I should struggle a bit more" lol. They stupid so much.
- rhelz 2y agoWho wants to tell him?
- rhelz 2y agoNobody wants to tell him? Ok, I’ll tell him. That “unhealthy” and undesirable schedule is pretty much what adult life is like. You work 40-60 hours a week, when you get home you have to do all kinds of chores, clean the house, mow the lawn, help the kids with their homework, put them to bed so everyone can sleep and start the whole thing over the next day. I don’t blame you for not wanting to do that—-nobody wants to do that. But you and your family need food, clothing, and shelter, and if you didn’t inherit any money from your parents, the only way to get those things is working your arse off. Welcome to the machine.
- shivajikobardan 2y agoThanks
- brudgers 2y ago[Random advice from the internet]: 1. Nobody here knows the details of your actual relationship with your parents and the cultural values and norms that you want to follow. 2. Ask your parents what would convince them - it probably requires a clear alternative plan that addresses their concerns. 3. And ask your parents what would be the consequences of not following their advice. Then you can make an informed decision about your options. Good luck.