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For us it was our baby daugther herself who kept us awake. For months we didn't have more than 2 hours of undisturbed sleep. After like 3 or 4 months we had aro

For us it was our baby daugther herself who kept us awake. For months we didn't have more than 2 hours of undisturbed sleep. After like 3 or 4 months we had around 4 hours of undisturbed sleep for a looong time. Now she's three and we sometimes get a full night of sleep but several times a week we get woken up at around 3 a clock at night by our daugther complaining about ghosts or something like that.

interludead 2y ago
It’s a unique kind of sleep deprivation
- katzenversteher 2y ago
  Indeed. I absolutely love my daughter but I think having her made me and my wife feel at least 10 years older. I always wanted two kids but now it makes me afraid and I honestly believe I would not survive a second one. At least not a similar like my daughter. She's super cute, intelligent and active but also extremely demanding and had a lot of problems with dermatitis, tummy aches, KISS syndrome and other stuff that made her not sleep well and cry a lot (and she's super loud). It also made me respect single parents 10000 times more than before. I can't imagine handling a situation like that alone.
  - interludead 2y ago
    I totally get the respect for single parents; it’s mind-blowing how they manage
  - nkrisc 2y ago
    I can tell you that the challenges of raising kids does not scale linearly with child count, it’s exponential.
  - anonfornoreason 2y ago
    I thought the same as you and delayed having a second kid as a result. Ended up having two more. The second kid was so much different than the first, slept fine, is way more emotionally regulated, etc. I regret my fear based decision making to delay. The third kid is somewhere between the first two. Fear based decisions don’t always lead to the best outcomes, though I am in no way dismissing the fear :)
bityard 2y ago
My kids are much older but something about the experience of rearing babies and toddlers changed my sleep permanently: I sleep much lighter (read: woken up by every noise and movement), and the whole concept of "sleeping in" has vanished as a possibility, even if I go to bed very late and no one else is in the house. Of course it's a trade-off I'd gladly make again but it still sucks that I will never feel as well rested day-to-day as I did before kids.

interludead 2y ago

It’s a unique kind of sleep deprivation

katzenversteher 2y ago
Indeed. I absolutely love my daughter but I think having her made me and my wife feel at least 10 years older. I always wanted two kids but now it makes me afraid and I honestly believe I would not survive a second one. At least not a similar like my daughter. She's super cute, intelligent and active but also extremely demanding and had a lot of problems with dermatitis, tummy aches, KISS syndrome and other stuff that made her not sleep well and cry a lot (and she's super loud). It also made me respect single parents 10000 times more than before. I can't imagine handling a situation like that alone.
- interludead 2y ago
  I totally get the respect for single parents; it’s mind-blowing how they manage
- nkrisc 2y ago
  I can tell you that the challenges of raising kids does not scale linearly with child count, it’s exponential.
- anonfornoreason 2y ago
  I thought the same as you and delayed having a second kid as a result. Ended up having two more. The second kid was so much different than the first, slept fine, is way more emotionally regulated, etc. I regret my fear based decision making to delay. The third kid is somewhere between the first two. Fear based decisions don’t always lead to the best outcomes, though I am in no way dismissing the fear :)

bityard 2y ago

My kids are much older but something about the experience of rearing babies and toddlers changed my sleep permanently: I sleep much lighter (read: woken up by every noise and movement), and the whole concept of "sleeping in" has vanished as a possibility, even if I go to bed very late and no one else is in the house. Of course it's a trade-off I'd gladly make again but it still sucks that I will never feel as well rested day-to-day as I did before kids.