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"Well, on balance, I think you'd have to ask the people in forced marriages and also look at the outcomes for different societies in comparison to each other"

"Well, on balance, I think you'd have to ask the people in forced marriages and also look at the outcomes for different societies in comparison to each other" Ok, so in upper castes of India the way it works is the parents come up with various candidates, the kids veto whichever candidates they don't like. In Indian culture you don't get married to the one you fall in love with, you fall in love with the person you get married to. Indian culture also takes the idea of worshipping your spouse to levels which are a bit more literal than in the US. The husband-wife relationship is literally supposed to mirror the god/human relationship. They seem to have pretty good outcomes on the whole. People get married and then they start dating. I have read a number of accounts by Indians suggesting that they like this system.

girvo 14y ago
"I have read a number of accounts by Indians suggesting that they like this system." And I have spoken to many Indians here in Australia that dislike this system. One was dreading having to go back home to get married to a girl he didn't pick. I'd be interested to see the cultural shift over time for this topic. How many disliked arranged marriages 50 years ago, vs now? Would be interesting.
- einhverfr 14y ago
  But that doesn't get to the standard of "asking people in arranged marriages" right? The previous poster said that should be the basis. It sounds like the one that was dreading to go back either didn't have good prospects there, or had very bad relationships with his parents.