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All social anxiety tips are useless. These are just bandaid solutions to a deeper problem with an individual. Figure out the root of the anxiety - lack of conf

All social anxiety tips are useless. These are just bandaid solutions to a deeper problem with an individual. Figure out the root of the anxiety - lack of confidence, depression, or just plain background anxiety, alienation, isolation etc and work on YOURSELF. Build your confidence through education, learning, the gym, deep curiosity about nature the universe, books. Be comfortable in yourself. That’s the harder problem. Solve that, you solve the world. These how to guides are self felatio

dyauspitr 2y ago
You can do all of the above and if the problem is something you can’t change e.g. you’re ugly, none of it will help you. You need charisma and that comes from practice which these guides help you get started on.
fch42 2y ago
There's only so and so much you can practice in front of a mirror. Tell yourself a thousand times "I won't panic in a social setting" and you've made zero progress. Expose yourself to a social setting twice, panic the first time immediately, panic the second time only an hour into the occasion, and you have made progress. Being affected by social anxiety myself, I wouldn't say there's a "cure". But one can learn to get used to the panic, can learn to "grade" it from unjustified and harmless to "it's better to leave now". Keep doing it, try different settings. It's not really worse than learning to walk. The first steps are wobbly, you cry when you fall, but you get better at it over time.
ranger207 2y ago
Social anxiety is a self-reinforcing loop. My therapist says the main thing I need to do to become socially confident is to just get out there and get experience. But my anxiety is itself based on worrying about screwing up because I don't have that experience. Things like this give me a little more knowledge that gives me a little more confidence that I can use to go out and get more experience

dyauspitr 2y ago

You can do all of the above and if the problem is something you can’t change e.g. you’re ugly, none of it will help you. You need charisma and that comes from practice which these guides help you get started on.

fch42 2y ago

There's only so and so much you can practice in front of a mirror. Tell yourself a thousand times "I won't panic in a social setting" and you've made zero progress. Expose yourself to a social setting twice, panic the first time immediately, panic the second time only an hour into the occasion, and you have made progress. Being affected by social anxiety myself, I wouldn't say there's a "cure". But one can learn to get used to the panic, can learn to "grade" it from unjustified and harmless to "it's better to leave now". Keep doing it, try different settings. It's not really worse than learning to walk. The first steps are wobbly, you cry when you fall, but you get better at it over time.

ranger207 2y ago

Social anxiety is a self-reinforcing loop. My therapist says the main thing I need to do to become socially confident is to just get out there and get experience. But my anxiety is itself based on worrying about screwing up because I don't have that experience. Things like this give me a little more knowledge that gives me a little more confidence that I can use to go out and get more experience