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I've had a lot of fights about this with my girlfriend. We both work in academia and regularly go to the gym, but she insists to have a drink every now and then

I've had a lot of fights about this with my girlfriend. We both work in academia and regularly go to the gym, but she insists to have a drink every now and then, which she says helps her take an edge off work stress. She also scolds me some times when I want to go to bed before 10pm, saying this is too restrictive and less fun. We ended up breaking up last week - not exclusively because of this, but these incompatibilities definitely contributed to the decision.

NetOpWibby 2y ago
I'm assuming y'all voted differently
artemonster 2y ago
Glad for your ex gf, tbh :)
cdrini 2y ago
Sorry to hear about your break up, hope you're doing ok.
- kombine 2y ago
  Thanks, we are both doing fine! I've had really good sleep since then actually.
fsckboy 2y ago
sounds like she likes a drink every now and then, and you insist that it, like fun after 10pm, is against your principles
the8thbit 2y ago
Her approach might not be the literal peak healthiest, but that doesn't mean its wrong. If she's only having a drink every once in a while and is getting 7+ hours of sleep most nights then the negative effects are probably negligible anyway. To a certain extent, most people need to sacrifice some amount of health and performance to live the fullest life they can. If you don't feel that you benefit from that, though, and its important for either of you that you share your lifestyle, then perhaps you just weren't that compatible.
- kombine 2y ago
  > To a certain extent, most people need to sacrifice some amount of health and performance to live the fullest life they can. I agree 100%. I did not post to complain about her, but more to note about incompatibilities in things like sleep schedule. I do believe though she should drink a bit less, but as long as it makes her enjoy life, why not.
zukzuk 2y ago
In this scenario, I am your girlfriend, and you are my boyfriend (or from my perspective you are my wife ). For what it’s worth, I’ve found that if I try to go to bed too early — as my wife often insists — I wake up in the middle of the night. This happens constantly enough that I really try to avoid being in bed before 11pm.
- kombine 2y ago
  Everybody is different. The reason I need to go to bed early is that I wake up before 7am every day, regardless of when I go to bed. So the only way for me to get 8-9 hours of sleep is to go to bed early. Your body is different from mine so you need a different routine. My point was that it's important for me to maintain a certain schedule which was incompatible with my partner - which is fair enough.
Melonotromo 2y ago
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NetOpWibby 2y ago

I'm assuming y'all voted differently

artemonster 2y ago

Glad for your ex gf, tbh :)

cdrini 2y ago

Sorry to hear about your break up, hope you're doing ok.

kombine 2y ago
Thanks, we are both doing fine! I've had really good sleep since then actually.

fsckboy 2y ago

sounds like she likes a drink every now and then, and you insist that it, like fun after 10pm, is against your principles

the8thbit 2y ago

Her approach might not be the literal peak healthiest, but that doesn't mean its wrong. If she's only having a drink every once in a while and is getting 7+ hours of sleep most nights then the negative effects are probably negligible anyway. To a certain extent, most people need to sacrifice some amount of health and performance to live the fullest life they can. If you don't feel that you benefit from that, though, and its important for either of you that you share your lifestyle, then perhaps you just weren't that compatible.

kombine 2y ago
> To a certain extent, most people need to sacrifice some amount of health and performance to live the fullest life they can. I agree 100%. I did not post to complain about her, but more to note about incompatibilities in things like sleep schedule. I do believe though she should drink a bit less, but as long as it makes her enjoy life, why not.

zukzuk 2y ago

In this scenario, I am your girlfriend, and you are my boyfriend (or from my perspective you are my wife ). For what it’s worth, I’ve found that if I try to go to bed too early — as my wife often insists — I wake up in the middle of the night. This happens constantly enough that I really try to avoid being in bed before 11pm.

kombine 2y ago
Everybody is different. The reason I need to go to bed early is that I wake up before 7am every day, regardless of when I go to bed. So the only way for me to get 8-9 hours of sleep is to go to bed early. Your body is different from mine so you need a different routine. My point was that it's important for me to maintain a certain schedule which was incompatible with my partner - which is fair enough.

Melonotromo 2y ago

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