I wasn't included in almost anything (games, typically soccer in breaks, after school activities) before I was almost a teenager and switched school. That was

I wasn't included in almost anything (games, typically soccer in breaks, after school activities) before I was almost a teenager and switched school. That was also the first time I didn't get in trouble for defending my personal space. I had poor parents (dad working low paid jobs, stay at home mom). Grew up far from cousins. Started working (real, hard work) as soon as it was legal as a 15 y.o. Started paying my own clothes and shoes then as far as possible. I probably could have made a point out of all that more often, but I have chosen to be thankful for loving parents, growing up in a good country and getting a lot of friends as I grew up. But I do find it hilarious when certain HNers want to educate me about privilege just because I am a white SW engineer. Edit, to be clear: I don't accuse you of trying to educate me. It seems you are just thinking out loud. I am just pointing out that it is possible to not let ones background influence ones present too much.