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I still get flashes of the traumatic day when I was in the kitchen area at work making myself a cup of tea and one of the female employees came in and said "You
by blitzar 2y ago
I still get flashes of the traumatic day when I was in the kitchen area at work making myself a cup of tea and one of the female employees came in and said "You are a strong and tall man, can you get that heavy box from the top shelf for me".
- kazinator 2y agoI had that happen numerous times in supermarkets.
- blitzar 2y agoThe supermarket encounters are most often dirty old women who are still stuck in the past, or have gotten away with it for so long they just don't know any better.
- pessimizer 2y agoIt's not sexual harassment, it's flattery to get you to do a favor for them. They would never sleep with you. It's also extremely normal and anodyne. Why do men think sexism is symmetrical? The reason sexual overtures from men are a problem is because they are usually serious and they are statistically threatening, because men often hurt women who don't respond to them in a way they deem appropriate. You would never fear this woman.
- fhfjfk 2y agoAs a fearful anxious man - Don't presume to know what I fear. I expect variation in the women I meet, some will be scared of me and some have much bigger balls than I do. If I calibrate my banter such that 1% of women are scared, am I in the wrong?
- kazinator 2y agoAll that matters is how real is what you fear. Any difference between fear and reality is for shrinks to deal with, not public policy.
- DrPimienta 2y agoIf rules and laws aren't going to be applied equally to women the way they are to men, then why should men and women ever be treated equally? Black people are statistically much, much more likely to commit rape, murder, and robbery than any other racial group. Would you agree this is reason to fear black people, the way you believe it's justified to fear men? I mean "they are statistically threatening" after all.
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- DrPimienta 2y ago"It's not sexual harassment, it's flattery to get you to do a favor for them. They would never sleep with you." That's the same with men too, usually. Why do you think it's sexism?
- nashashmi 2y ago> dirty old women who are still stuck in the past This counts as an inflammatory statement. Even thinking this is beneath a person of fairness. Those are people too. And you may not like the era they were in and you may want to redefine the era of today to some lala make-believe, but at no point should you disrespect and denigrate the people who don't buy in to your redefinition. It is like saying: Windows developers are stupid and stuck in the past because they cannot get in line with programming on a mac. come on! they don't have to. And they don't want to.
- blitzar 2y agoIt is like saying: dirty old man or even perverted old man. Which has probably been uttered 100s of thousands, maybe millions of times on this planet today in reference to men (those filthy perverts) interacting with others.
- nashashmi 2y agoIt is nothing like tht
- averageRoyalty 2y agoCan you explain why? It seems a fair comparison to me.
- nashashmi 2y agoBecause perverts are few? Because perverse people are unliked? Because no one is ok with perverts? Because calling someone a pervert is an offense? Fair comparison??
- DrPimienta 2y ago>Because perverts are few? Yes, now you understand why it's so annoying and offensive. Women will fly off the handle and accuse any man they don't like of being sexually dangerous when the vast majority of men are just going about their life. It's extremely banal.
- skulk 2y agoHaha, yes funny absurd gender swap. You should actually talk to women and try to understand why they feel the way they feel instead of ridiculing it.
- DrPimienta 2y agoThe fact that you would dismiss his lived experience this way is disgusting, problematic, patronizing, and sexist.