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> Like other tradeswomen, I’ve learned to work around unwanted comments, including uninvited conversations with men bent on signaling their expertise. It's obv
by justsomehnguy 2y ago
> Like other tradeswomen, I’ve learned to work around unwanted comments, including uninvited conversations with men bent on signaling their expertise.
It's obvious why an uninvited conversations are perceived as a sexism.
But anyone with the experience in almost anything but particularly in any trade would tell you what men do receive uninvited conversations with men bent on signaling their expertise all the goddamn time.
Sure, seeing 'a woman out of place' triggers some of them to do it when they wouldn't do it with a man in the same place, because they could get told to shove their oh-so-important opinion to the place where sun is not shining, but the source of this behaviour is not to be a sexist asshole but just being an asshole.
As the other comment rightfully notes, any difference is going to be a target.
- globular-toast 2y agoI've had men try to teach me stuff a bunch of times. I listen, learn, and thank them.
- themaninthedark 2y agoYeah, same here. Even if I know what I am doing, sometime I learn something new or a new way to approach something. Sometimes not. But then hey, free advice is worth what you paid for it.
- rootusrootus 2y ago> free advice is worth what you paid for it. Occasionally. Many times it is worth considerably less. Time is valuable.
- arkh 2y ago> receive uninvited conversations with men bent on signaling their expertise all the goddamn time My father was a mechanic. He learnt fast to stop trying to correct know-it-alls about cars. "Let 'em do stupid shit, it gives us work to bill".
- deskr 2y ago> with men bent on signaling their expertise all the goddamn time. The Germans have a good name for them that many languages have incorporated: Besserwisser. My way of treating them: let them talk. It makes them happy. I might even learn something new. If they are wrong, I do try to ask them a though provoking question. I know that the question will live in their head in the background for a long time. Perhaps one day it'll help change their minds.
- justsomehnguy 2y ago> Besserwisser better-knower should be an adequate translation? Kudos, both on the term and the way.