when therapy talk is used to justify being an asshole, it's really amazing—like, "i also can’t endorse subjecting yourself to the mental load." therapy language

when therapy talk is used to justify being an asshole, it's really amazing—like, "i also can’t endorse subjecting yourself to the mental load." therapy language repurposed to justify self-centeredness, dressing up selfish behavior as a form of "self-care" or boundary setting really feels like a hallmark of our era. it would be much easier to say, "i am a bad person, and i don't care," and own it. that would help develop a less hypocritical vision of ethics and the functioning of society. confronting the banality of our own evil would humanize the evil in others. probably even better than offering food, which is the most patronizing and offensive move (just offer money, always, please—and if they use it for drugs or alcohol, good for them). If people ask money, give money please. don't be an ass.