Ehhh, this is the counter-argument from the employer. That $190K seems highly dubious. I, an at-will employee earn ~60% more via benefits... and let me tell you

Ehhh, this is the counter-argument from the employer. That $190K seems highly dubious. I, an at-will employee earn ~60% more via benefits... and let me tell you that's definitely not the same as cash. And the pet bereavement et al sounds like bargaining chips (no better proof than them being dropped in the negotiation process.)