In most cases for most people, those would be socially disqualifying because it'd be breach of etiquette. You would be acting in a distasteful way that people f

In most cases for most people, those would be socially disqualifying because it'd be breach of etiquette. You would be acting in a distasteful way that people find inappropriate. Now compare that to how life altering it would be for you if you were dropping the 'N-word' in such situations. The difference is that people really do believe the 'N-word' has real power to do harm. It's not just a rude word, it's an 'evil' word (which is what curses used to be).