Personally I think the best way to fight fair in a relationship is to maintain less close emotional commitment, so there's no big fear of lose, and to try to po

Personally I think the best way to fight fair in a relationship is to maintain less close emotional commitment, so there's no big fear of lose, and to try to point out an unfair tricks (eg, "You're just trying to make me feel shame without any specific reason. Why? What's wrong?"). Other, ask questions; stay classy.