> I think there can be a tendency for some women to fixate on their problems My wife and I used to interact a lot with newly married couples at our church and

> I think there can be a tendency for some women to fixate on their problems My wife and I used to interact a lot with newly married couples at our church and if our experience is anything to go off of, you are correct and it's the one thing that drives new husbands crazy. I don't think there's anything wrong with saying it. It's a generalization and doesn't apply to everyone, but it seems obvious to me that there are social pathologies that are sex-specific. As a man, I can rattle of dozens of pathological psychological us men are especially prone to. I think there's actually widespread recognition of this for men. I don't see why we shouldn't be able to say the same thing about women. That's not to dismiss women. After all, the desire, especially of young men, to one up another is absolutely real (and can sometimes become destructive)! Or, the desire to simply grin and go on despite having some kind of emotional need is again a very real desire in many men. However, society realizes this and has actively tried to at least make men aware of these various states of mind that affect us. Whereas -- again if my experience as a mentor to new couples is right -- if someone ever tells a women that she is falling into a stereotypically female doom spiral, woe be to that man, or woman (in general, of course, there's always exceptions!)!