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> For you, if you’re expecting guests, just tell them to ring your doorbell. Get rid of the ambiguity and give them comfort in knowing the “right” thing to do
by michaelt 2y ago
> For you, if you’re expecting guests, just tell them to ring your doorbell. Get rid of the ambiguity and give them comfort in knowing the “right” thing to do
I'm not the person you're replying to, but the way I see things, if I put a button on the front of my house labelled "visitors, please press me" and then I got mad at my visitors for pressing it, that would be super weird behaviour on my part. The button is the permission.
People who don't want visitors to press the bell either remove it, or tape a bit of cardboard over it or something.
- camtarn 2y agoWell, usually. Our doorbell, which was non-functional from when we moved in until we moved out eight years later, and which we were always planning to fix 'next week', is a good counterexample. Not that we'd get mad at people for ringing the doorbell, but we were very glad that people usually figured out they had to knock.
- markerz 2y agoSure, I think if a doorbell exists, it's fine to press it. For me, I just don't want to get overwhelmed by their barking dogs or greeting 4 other people. Sometimes, I'm just not in the mood and just want to see my friend one-on-one. I'm not doing it for other people. I'm doing it for myself because I find the experience of calling someone when I arrive to be a lot more pleasant in some cases. Those cases happen to occur more often when my friends are young. i.e. living with lots of other people or with their parents and family dogs.