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Why should we respect grumbling users? Why should we listen, or selectively stop listening when we’re annoyed? You’re not my real dad. After all, being grumpy
by josephg 2y ago
Why should we respect grumbling users? Why should we listen, or selectively stop listening when we’re annoyed? You’re not my real dad.
After all, being grumpy is fun. It also serves lots of needs - for the individual and for the community. Grumping is a soft way of expressing a perceived break of community norms and expectations, and it draws attention to the break. We have evolved emotions like this for a reason. “Negative” emotions like grumpiness exists to serve us and serve our tribes.
- ahartmetz 2y agoOur emotions are not very well adapted to the internet environment with millions of strangers, echo chambers and so on. But the internet does allow to just ignore unwanted communication. Makes sense to use that when necessary.
- josephg 2y agoMost of our emotions are adapted just fine. The things that get in the way are: - People suppress some of their feelings. Especially people in certain cultures with certain feelings (Californians & Canadians with anger, Australians & Brits with pride, etc). Suppression also means nobody knows how to receive that feeling and they get weird. - When you suppress certain emotions, they don’t get a chance to “grow up” from a childish expression to an adult expression. Adult anger looks different from child anger. Ignore things if you want. But I think that’s a lower skill, worse outcome choice in general.