It may even be justified, because I was mad at him for things that no longer matter. If it was just a friend, it may no longer matter, being similar enough to

It may even be justified, because I was mad at him for things that no longer matter. If it was just a friend, it may no longer matter, being similar enough to you. Anything more involved (the $SUBJ of the article) implies that everything else is secondary, and nothing else matters: it could very well be, that causing pain and grudges is the last thing the "friend" would have wanted -- in any shape or form: be it fight or discussion (or rather dispute). Actually, the article mentions this, when putting off the fight/discussion for a time, when "on the spot" discussions would be too heated. This will bring you right back to "If one feels disadvantaged at the end, both have lost, since the same fight will probably have to be fought again." Or discussed, as you prefer.