Stop that. You are projecting the pain that you suffered at the hands of an abuser onto someone you have never met. Dehumanizing someone who is seeing a therap

Stop that. You are projecting the pain that you suffered at the hands of an abuser onto someone you have never met. Dehumanizing someone who is seeing a therapist and seeking help online trying to seek help is both legitimately unhelpful, and also actively harms people in recovery by casting doubt on whether getting help will help them get better. Abusers with BPD exist, abusers without BPD exist. Abusers are abusers, being diagnosed with BPD doesn't make you an abuser. People with BPD are, almost definitionally, people who've been abused or clinically neglected, and are likely to be abused in adulthood as well. https://www.manchester.ac.uk/about/news/borderline-personality-disorder-has-strongest-link-to-childhood-trauma/ https://www.manchester.ac.uk/about/news/borderline-personali... Finally, BPD is a set of symptoms, not a cause - for this reason, its a pretty contested diagnosis with a lot of stigma attached. Its often more accurate to think of it as a trauma disorder. 50% of people with BPD don't meet the clinical criteria (aka they don't have BPD) after 10 years in many studies - if it were truly an unchangeable thing, those numbers would not be possible.