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My measurement is "would I accept/tolerate to host them for months if they’d lose their home" and vice-versa. (It’s not would I do it because I think that I wo
by pjerem 2y ago
My measurement is "would I accept/tolerate to host them for months if they’d lose their home" and vice-versa.
(It’s not would I do it because I think that I would it for more people that I know than just my friends just by empathy, but more if it would bother me)
- cheschire 2y agoWow I really like this model. Maybe months is a bit extreme, I wouldn’t even tolerate my brothers living with me for months. But that’s more about me feeling obligated to host, than them being annoying. So if I set aside my feeling of obligation, just considering who would I not mind running into at all hours of the day, and who would I not mind feeling a bit more exposed to… Living with people tends to create compromising situations that the workplace does not. I can honestly think of a couple folks this would work with, which makes me feel incredibly lucky.
- 082349872349872 2y agoNote that this may be a better model of friendship, but according to TFA we ought to be looking for a measure which is symmetric: if we ask X if Y is their friend, we'd like to get the same answer as if we ask Y about X. With that desideratum in mind, any measure proportional to "[non-work-related] hours spent voluntarily together" is relatively symmetric.
- antisthenes 2y agoYeah, months just sounds extreme. To me, it would be "host them for a weekend" or something. Even that narrows the circle of people I know considerably.