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Most "busyness" is good old-fashioned social ineptitude mixed with an ill-defined and defensive elitism. It comes from a "could-do-better" social-climbing menta
by michaelochurch 14y ago
Most "busyness" is good old-fashioned social ineptitude mixed with an ill-defined and defensive elitism. It comes from a "could-do-better" social-climbing mentality combined with incompetence in execution. It's an end result of (a) wanting only to associate with "high-value" people for some definition of high value, but (b) being unable to assess value on account of not giving anyone a chance. So the resulting behavior is to put this decision off indefinitely.
The "I'm busy" shield is a way of rejecting people without rejecting them. It's the ultimate in indecision. And most of these "oh-so-busy" people spend as much time on stupid shit (or useful work, but done inefficiently) as anyone else.
- moron 14y agoThat describes me very well, except I am definitely not a busy person. I just don't like doing social things -- or rather I get a sort of malaise at the thought of going to them, for exactly the reasons you describe here. I've honestly never seen it laid out this well before. But I don't think of it as social ineptitude, only because when I commit to doing things, I can be "on" and meet people and have a great time and all that. Beforehand, however, the thought of getting into that mentality and doing all that stuff seems like "work" to me, and I just feel like I don't wanna do it.