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I haven’t seen any patterns, and I’m wondering where people are getting these kinds of insights. Like I have 1 friend that married somebody who could reasonabl
by bee_rider 2y ago
I haven’t seen any patterns, and I’m wondering where people are getting these kinds of insights.
Like I have 1 friend that married somebody who could reasonably be described as like a first serious relationship. Other than that… everybody tended to settle down after college, after a few more serious relationships. Nobody has gotten divorced yet (late 30’s). But (and this is being generous to myself), I’ll say I probably only have like 5 friends who I’d really be confident in saying much about the health of their relationships.
I think everybody in this thread is just making things up, tbh.
- pjc50 2y agoOur sample sizes are small, our circumstances vary, and people are too unique.
- lolinder 2y agoOnly counting marriages that I have very close understanding of: Between my wife's immediate family and mine I've had personal insight into 11 different marriages, a mix of both types. Still a small sample size relative to the population as a whole, but not nothing. In that set, the only healthy marriages are first timers. It's certainly not enough to draw any conclusions, but that's why all I actually argued is that OP's claimed success pattern doesn't seem to be true in my experience.