Ah sorry, it is usually me who gets accused of it. I would be very surprised if I've ever made the accusation in the last 5+ years. And so the point isn't lost

Ah sorry, it is usually me who gets accused of it. I would be very surprised if I've ever made the accusation in the last 5+ years. And so the point isn't lost: I believe this cultural norm to be a substantial cause of the initial complaint.