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I am not sure what safety-vs-sex has to do with sexuality supposedly not being a binary thing? I deliberately wrote "preferred sex" to be as inclusive as I cou

by lynx23 2y ago

I am not sure what safety-vs-sex has to do with sexuality supposedly not being a binary thing? I deliberately wrote "preferred sex" to be as inclusive as I could, but I find everything else pretty much uncalled for. For me, for instance, sexuality is pretty much the most binary thing I can think of. Its OK that you see it differently. But hiding advocacy in every statement is really tiring...

BiteCode_dev 2y ago
And it was very condescending as well, like explaining to you that the sky is blue while you were debatting of the weather implications of the cloud shapes.
- lynx23 2y ago
  Oh! I am blind, and due to my disability, am treated in a condescending way on a regular basis, so I didn't even notice. But now that you point it out... I can see what you mean. However, being used to being treated like a small child by random (supposedly well-meaning) strangers is so normal to me, I failed to recognize the pattern...
moralestapia 2y ago
It really is a bummer when someone just straight out projects all their trauma into a conversation, even when it is totally uncalled. An anecdote: I am learning French, I want to find places where I can listen/speak French all the time. I am also a Catholic and go to church every Sunday. My two neurons connected one day and I decided it is a great idea to join and hang out at a French parish. I have acquaintances who come from France, they send their kids to French speaking schools here, they go to bars where French people hang out, etc... So, naturally, I decided to just ask them if they happen to know about French catholic communities. Their replies were nothing like "no, I have no idea", or "yes, you can try at ..."; but, instead, they immediately derailed the conversation into how they don't believe in God and started rationalizing their decision to me as if I was going to be interested on all that ... Which leads me to a tangential issue, we have become absurdly narcissistic. We think of us as the absolute center of our (minuscule) worlds to a pathological level. This is a major cause behind the rising problems regarding loneliness and relationships in general, I think.
- ravieira 2y ago
  What city would that be? Fellow francophone catholic here :)
  - moralestapia 2y ago
    Toronto, Canada. Are you around? :D

by lynx23 2y ago

BiteCode_dev 2y ago

And it was very condescending as well, like explaining to you that the sky is blue while you were debatting of the weather implications of the cloud shapes.

lynx23 2y ago
Oh! I am blind, and due to my disability, am treated in a condescending way on a regular basis, so I didn't even notice. But now that you point it out... I can see what you mean. However, being used to being treated like a small child by random (supposedly well-meaning) strangers is so normal to me, I failed to recognize the pattern...

moralestapia 2y ago

It really is a bummer when someone just straight out projects all their trauma into a conversation, even when it is totally uncalled. An anecdote: I am learning French, I want to find places where I can listen/speak French all the time. I am also a Catholic and go to church every Sunday. My two neurons connected one day and I decided it is a great idea to join and hang out at a French parish. I have acquaintances who come from France, they send their kids to French speaking schools here, they go to bars where French people hang out, etc... So, naturally, I decided to just ask them if they happen to know about French catholic communities. Their replies were nothing like "no, I have no idea", or "yes, you can try at ..."; but, instead, they immediately derailed the conversation into how they don't believe in God and started rationalizing their decision to me as if I was going to be interested on all that ... Which leads me to a tangential issue, we have become absurdly narcissistic. We think of us as the absolute center of our (minuscule) worlds to a pathological level. This is a major cause behind the rising problems regarding loneliness and relationships in general, I think.

ravieira 2y ago
What city would that be? Fellow francophone catholic here :)
- moralestapia 2y ago
  Toronto, Canada. Are you around? :D