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Alone time I find quite valuable. Every now and then I find myself with a day or two by myself, having no expectations, nobody to have to coordinate with, nowh

Alone time I find quite valuable. Every now and then I find myself with a day or two by myself, having no expectations, nobody to have to coordinate with, nowhere to be at a particular time. It’s incredibly resetting. I know it’s valuable because when I can pull it off, I feel like I’m stealing something.

apwell23 2y ago
Joys of being a non parent. I miss those 'open days' :(
- riku_iki 2y ago
  > Joys of being a non parent. I miss those 'open days' :( and decade later you will miss 'occupied' days.
- plasma_beam 2y ago
  Au contraire, I get Columbus day off work. None of my kids are off school :) I’ve been looking forward to this coming Monday for months. Those brief periods of solitude must be taken advantage of with kids.
- jmbwell 2y ago
  Being a parent is why I value them
- lostemptations5 2y ago
  You're right though -- all the parents I know desperately want alone time.
- kaffekaka 2y ago
  Can't speak for anyone else of course, but before kids a day with no obligations was mostly just a nice day. With kids it is so much more significant. My colleagues that don't have kids, they waste their time. Not by doing nothing - that would be awesome - but by creating problems for themselves that end up taking their spare time. It is like they believe they will always have empty days to spare.
  - m463 2y ago
    Sounds like "youth is wasted on the young" :) You know your perspective also works in reverse. When I was young I wanted time away from my parents. Now that they're gone, I would love to spend even 5 minutes with them. balance is a never ending struggle.
  - paulcole 2y ago
    > My colleagues that don't have kids, they waste their time If I told you, “Having kids is a waste of your time” you’d be 100% sure that I’m wrong. And I might be. I might not be. All depends on perspective. But there you sit confidently making a judgement about someone else’s time just like I did with you.
- ein0p 2y ago
  That’s what grandparents are for. Or at least were, in the past.

apwell23 2y ago

Joys of being a non parent. I miss those 'open days' :(

riku_iki 2y ago
> Joys of being a non parent. I miss those 'open days' :( and decade later you will miss 'occupied' days.
plasma_beam 2y ago
Au contraire, I get Columbus day off work. None of my kids are off school :) I’ve been looking forward to this coming Monday for months. Those brief periods of solitude must be taken advantage of with kids.
jmbwell 2y ago
Being a parent is why I value them
lostemptations5 2y ago
You're right though -- all the parents I know desperately want alone time.
kaffekaka 2y ago
Can't speak for anyone else of course, but before kids a day with no obligations was mostly just a nice day. With kids it is so much more significant. My colleagues that don't have kids, they waste their time. Not by doing nothing - that would be awesome - but by creating problems for themselves that end up taking their spare time. It is like they believe they will always have empty days to spare.
- m463 2y ago
  Sounds like "youth is wasted on the young" :) You know your perspective also works in reverse. When I was young I wanted time away from my parents. Now that they're gone, I would love to spend even 5 minutes with them. balance is a never ending struggle.
- paulcole 2y ago
  > My colleagues that don't have kids, they waste their time If I told you, “Having kids is a waste of your time” you’d be 100% sure that I’m wrong. And I might be. I might not be. All depends on perspective. But there you sit confidently making a judgement about someone else’s time just like I did with you.
ein0p 2y ago
That’s what grandparents are for. Or at least were, in the past.