I think lots of the one-up-man-ship is because we are afraid of not being good enough. As soon as we start ripping other people down and they start ripping us

I think lots of the one-up-man-ship is because we are afraid of not being good enough. As soon as we start ripping other people down and they start ripping us down, we all act like we're in the jungle, about to be pounced at any moment with accusations of inadequacy. Mistakes are impossible to avoid, but you are good enough anyway. Your code might be good enough, but probably you need to iterate over it to find how how it isn't good enough and how best to address those flaws. We need to stop taking criticism personally and, far more importantly, we need to stop giving criticism personally. We need to stop attacking people for being human before they will stop attacking us for our humanity, before we can stop pretending we are superhumans because it is the only way for us to stay safe. Tech needs compassion, because we deserve to be shown compassion.