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Too many peoples social and professional lives are entwined. They aren't meant to be the same thing. Have you heard of the phrase "never mix business with plea
by stevenAthompson 2y ago
Too many peoples social and professional lives are entwined. They aren't meant to be the same thing.
Have you heard of the phrase "never mix business with pleasure"? It isn't about sexual harassment policies. It's general life advice, meant to save you from becoming a recluse who loses all of his friends if he loses his job or whose work suffers because he's paying attention to something other than the bottom line.
For your own mental health, I'd work on making some friends outside of the office. No matter HOW cool they are at the office.
- axegon_ 2y agoNot necessarily. My hobbies and interests are very specific so finding like minded individuals, even in a large city, is practically impossible otherwise. I.e. not my last job but the one before - even though I quit it nearly 2 years ago, I stayed close friends with two of the guys there and we are in touch on daily basis - we just live in different countries. If anything, at this point they are closer to me than most people I've ever known and it's safe to say I'm speaking on behalf of all of us. Again, that just happens sometimes. For comparison, I wouldn't bat an eyelash about anyone from my old job, with the exception of the hr and qa lead. Everyone else - I hope I never see them again in my life.
- earnesti 2y ago> Everyone else - I hope I never see them again in my life. Wow, quite a strong statement. Personally I'm not much friends with ppl from work, my feelings are neutral. If I see some ex-colleague from work, I'll say hello and maybe some small talk. But that practically never happens, because I've been moving a lot.
- stevenAthompson 2y agoIf your hobbies and interests are so specific that they prevent you from living a normal healthy life they are maladaptive. You should add new ones that allow you to have healthy social engagements with other human beings.
- thefz 2y agoCould not agree more. Let's keep it professional by maintaining some distance.
- HDThoreaun 2y agoIt's not even that social and professional lives are intertwined as much as going to the office everyday makes it easy to do other stuff too. When working remote most days I wouldnt leave my house other than maybe a quick walk. When I go to the office Im much more likely to make plans with my friends after.