I'm extremely skeptical that there is any factual link between unpleasant/arrogant behavior and whether or not someone was interested in computers/technology/sc

I'm extremely skeptical that there is any factual link between unpleasant/arrogant behavior and whether or not someone was interested in computers/technology/science at a young age. When someone says that computer science/software engineering is not for them, then maybe it's because it's not for them and not because engineers are not welcoming enough. To put it another way, let's say I enjoyed listening to the radio, and decided to go for a degree in music despite the fact that I've never picked up an instrument before. When I get to my first music class and find that it's full of people who have been playing since they were toddlers, should I expect that we'll meet on common ground? If I did, and then became upset about my inability to fit in - that would be my problem, not theirs.