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You cannot ask the question: "Is life just about going to school, getting your degree, getting a job, then getting married so you can have children who will the

You cannot ask the question: "Is life just about going to school, getting your degree, getting a job, then getting married so you can have children who will then continue the process after you are gone?" IF you do not have children. The feeling of having children cannot be conveyed in words, it's something you have to do in order to understand and once you do have children, yes you realise that this is what your life's word has been building up to. The greatest gift we can give is life back into the world. I am grateful that we can do that in the modern world with a minimised risk of dying in childbirth or your child dying as an infant.

zelphirkalt 2y ago
You can ask any question you want. Everyone is going to have a different basis of life experiences and social environment from which to draw answers from. Just to throw some shade onto your very rose tinted glasses picture: https://old.reddit.com/r/regretfulparents/ https://old.reddit.com/r/regretfulparents/ Time to accept, that not everyone needs to be a parent or will enjoy being a parent. Sure, many do, otherwise the species would go extinct. Actually maybe even too many do, if we look at usage of natural resources on planet Earth. But definitely not all have to and everyone should damn stop trying to pressure others into taking this step.
- 01jonny01 2y ago
  You can ask the question, but its like trying to fit a storm in a tea cup or describe the what a steak tastes like to a person who has never eaten meat. The fact of the matter is the (Western) world is becoming more selfish as we immerse ourselves in technology and hyper convenience. I've read that reddit board before, you can quite literally sum up everyone's problems as being too selfish. If you think about others and SACRIFICE then you no longer dwell on your own problems. BTW it's intellectually dishonest to talk about population and usage of natural resources and not talk about demographics. Nearly every native Western population is in decline, this is an existential issue for Western civilisation.
  - zelphirkalt 2y ago
    Not everyone subscribes to the believe of needing to sacrifice their own lifetime, when they have have no interest in having children. It is fine, if you personally do. Just stop trying to push that as the single truth onto other people. What is stopping you from simply keeping your opinions addressing yourself, instead of trying to make them into over-generalized views to be pushed onto others? You could say: "For me it was the right decision to do X." and it would be fine. Accept, that others are different.
    - 01jonny01 2y ago
      You are right. I am projecting, but there is a reason why I am. I really don't want anyone to miss out on the opportunity, it's fricking hard but its the most worthwhile thing most people can ever do. We've been led to believe that having kids takes away from you, that's BS. Anyway I seem to have touched a nerve, I sense some cognitive dissonance within you. On a primal level you know it makes sense, on a thinking level you are conflicting. Follow your natural instinct it's been engineered by nature to ensure our survival.

zelphirkalt 2y ago

You can ask any question you want. Everyone is going to have a different basis of life experiences and social environment from which to draw answers from. Just to throw some shade onto your very rose tinted glasses picture: https://old.reddit.com/r/regretfulparents/ https://old.reddit.com/r/regretfulparents/ Time to accept, that not everyone needs to be a parent or will enjoy being a parent. Sure, many do, otherwise the species would go extinct. Actually maybe even too many do, if we look at usage of natural resources on planet Earth. But definitely not all have to and everyone should damn stop trying to pressure others into taking this step.

01jonny01 2y ago
You can ask the question, but its like trying to fit a storm in a tea cup or describe the what a steak tastes like to a person who has never eaten meat. The fact of the matter is the (Western) world is becoming more selfish as we immerse ourselves in technology and hyper convenience. I've read that reddit board before, you can quite literally sum up everyone's problems as being too selfish. If you think about others and SACRIFICE then you no longer dwell on your own problems. BTW it's intellectually dishonest to talk about population and usage of natural resources and not talk about demographics. Nearly every native Western population is in decline, this is an existential issue for Western civilisation.
- zelphirkalt 2y ago
  Not everyone subscribes to the believe of needing to sacrifice their own lifetime, when they have have no interest in having children. It is fine, if you personally do. Just stop trying to push that as the single truth onto other people. What is stopping you from simply keeping your opinions addressing yourself, instead of trying to make them into over-generalized views to be pushed onto others? You could say: "For me it was the right decision to do X." and it would be fine. Accept, that others are different.
  - 01jonny01 2y ago
    You are right. I am projecting, but there is a reason why I am. I really don't want anyone to miss out on the opportunity, it's fricking hard but its the most worthwhile thing most people can ever do. We've been led to believe that having kids takes away from you, that's BS. Anyway I seem to have touched a nerve, I sense some cognitive dissonance within you. On a primal level you know it makes sense, on a thinking level you are conflicting. Follow your natural instinct it's been engineered by nature to ensure our survival.