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You're pretty much onto the crux of the situation. Lets put it mildly, its a rare case that the parents of a disabled child/person truly understand their needs
by lynx23 2y ago
You're pretty much onto the crux of the situation. Lets put it mildly, its a rare case that the parents of a disabled child/person truly understand their needs/desires/wishes/dreams. Its much more common that the barrier that appears between disabled and non-disabled people will persist, and will not get broken down. Most disabled people I know (and I am disabled myself) basically had to run away from home to get some degree of freedom. Its a rather sad thing, which involves a lot of things, mostly the trauma of the parents which they likely never overcome. And the desire of the disabled peerson to gain some independence. Which is usually not compatible with family.
- bdjsiqoocwk 2y agoThat post really made me sad. I'm not disabled and neither is anyone in my family. But my relationship with my parents was always bad. I never spent any time thinking about the lives of disabled people because they've always been such an alien reality to me, but I think if you'd asked me think about it I wouldve had the vague intuition that disabled at least had good relationships with their parents because how dependent/how much time they were forced to spend with them. Your comment about the trauma that parents never overcome added a really dark twist for me to the concept of "bad relationship with your parents". Anyway thanks for sharing
- StefanBatory 2y agoAnd longing for a family that you could have had... I find it that people who grew up with attentive parents just don't understand how one can not trust their parents, or what it is like to have to hide everything from them.