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I find the content of your statements reasonable, but the ad hominem really undercuts the message. Many years ago, someone replied to me saying, “you’re right,

I find the content of your statements reasonable, but the ad hominem really undercuts the message. Many years ago, someone replied to me saying, “you’re right, but your comment is so abrasive,” and that really stuck with me. Humility and grace can go a long way, even in internet conversations.

consteval 2y ago
To be fair, my argument was taken in such a ridiculous and offensive direction I felt it necessary. It's one thing to think I'm wrong, it's another all together to warp my argument to make me appear crazy. Or pro-abuse. Or whatever. That, to me, isn't in good faith and I quickly lose the motivation to be kind. I work under the assumption the people I talk to aren't stupid, they're aware of what they're doing. I won't extend pity or give people the innocence of a child. In my eyes, that is even more offensive.
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