> because they automatically assume the person asking is trying to change their mind as opposed to make an effort to understand them. That's a pretty negative

> because they automatically assume the person asking is trying to change their mind as opposed to make an effort to understand them. That's a pretty negative view of something I think is much simpler: Most people, on most topics, remember the conclusions (opinions) formed when learning about the topic, but either don't remember how they got there or only vaguely remember the details.