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Cant get past paywal, but my amateur view on this is something like this: You have a car trying to get up a hill. If it gets past the peak there is a huge downa
by spoonfeeder006 2y ago
Cant get past paywal, but my amateur view on this is something like this: You have a car trying to get up a hill. If it gets past the peak there is a huge downard road that it can just coast on endlessly. But if you'r engine is too weak that makes no difference whatsoever
I would suppose the same thing with the brain. You need enough neurotransmitters such as dopamine to fire and exert a behavior change. And then there is a reward that causes overall improvements in the body's functionality. Without enough neurotransmitters though, you just can't do it
I find that learning self compassion and letting go of stress has helped me to an extent. Beating yourself for procrastinating only adds internal tension
Just as we should strive to forgive others, and (if they seem well intentioned and not shamelessly deceitful) to be kind and patient with them, it is equally important to do the same with ourselves
Learning to not dwell on our imperfections is equally important as having the self awareness to recognize our flaws
And in doing so that helps streamline our thoughts to give us more motivation
For some people medication like adderall can also be really helpful
- hk_flying_gear 2y agoWow, this comment made my day. Very insightful.
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- spoonfeeder006 2y agoYeah, goes to show that if a person (or ourselves) is struggling with an impairment, a weakness, or a fault, then being compassionate with them (or ourselves) is an act of truthfullness. Its not just "oh you gotta be nice to everyone, just cuz you have to" but rather recognizing that there is a process inside all of us that needs troubleshooting And depending on the underlying issue a different remedy is needed > The path to guidance is one of love and compassion, not of force and coercion. -The Bab So constantly thinking about the failure to the point of forming an identity as a failure isn't helpful. So it can take effort to look past that and instead problem solve on what went wrong and how to correct it in the future And if the failure happens a hundred thousand times, keeping that positive forward thinking process is itself a meritorious act I believe, since its a step away from being unhelpful to ourselves That said, I would say that with some actions, e.g. intentionally harming others in a serious and irraparable way, that troubleshooting then requires a punishment from society, but that is also kindness since it helps the offender grow by forcing consequences of their crime on them. But punishment should not be abusive or cruel like it often is today But yeah, I would say we all have a lot of baggage to let go of to find true freedom, individually and collectively by taking part in genuinely contributing to society in our best possible way Most of these ideas are inspired by Baha'i teachings, e.g. the Bab and Abdul-Baha, as well as from the book Tiny Habits by B.J. Fogg, and Allen Carr's books about addiction