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Darvo

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• ggm 2y ago
  Very easy fault to fall into. I think it may come from the Chimpanzee level wired brain function. I hate it when I do it myself. It's a level-1 error flag to me I'm probably in the wrong when I take an incoming attack and somehow try to push it back. It's also why I think so many of us believe a story arc which says Donald Trump is projecting.
  • djaouen 2y ago
    > when I take an incoming attack and somehow try to push it back. Abusers (usually) make the first move. If you are playing defense, that is usually a good sign.
    • ggm 2y ago
      ehhh I don't read it that way: party a: you took the last cookie party b: (me) -fuck that I think you did (I actually did) you lier! anyway you suck and last month you took the last coke can (I actually did that too) party a: no I didn't what the fuck? party b: (me) I'm going to HR the DARVO is me. right?
      • djaouen 2y ago
        Empathetic people (usually) only accuse people publicly as a last resort. Did Party A spread rumors about you eating the cookie prior? Is Party A using the accusation to hinder your chances of promotion? If you ate the cookie, you should just tell people you ate it.
        • ggm 2y ago
          Yea but I'm using DARVO to avoid having to admit I'm the office food stealer.