I wouldn't suggest people "hack" self-care/hygeine habits like nesting to avoid turning off some prospective date or hookup. The lady on the train isn't litera

I wouldn't suggest people "hack" self-care/hygeine habits like nesting to avoid turning off some prospective date or hookup. The lady on the train isn't literally getting turned off by the mattress resting on the floor. They're getting turned off because the image they see represents someone deeply alienated from the instinctive desire to attend to one's space (nest). The one neat trick of putting a mattress on the frame doesn't change that. It just leaves the visitor more lacking for words to describe what's unsettling them. If you're just a 22 year old tech bro all in on your career and are proud of your aescetism, live as sparsely as you want. At some point, though, you may find that taking an interest in your surroundings makes you feel better and gives you more resiliency, and that people respond positively to what that represents. But don't bother cheating your way there. It will must confuse you when somebody shows up and doesn't fall for the hack.