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> being actively involved as a father in my children's lives - as much as humanly possible - hopping in and out of Sydney to care for them and taking them on mo
by knallfrosch 2y ago
> being actively involved as a father in my children's lives - as much as humanly possible - hopping in and out of Sydney to care for them and taking them on more grand adventures around Australia during school holidays.
Humans are capable of much more care than seeing their children during school holidays and otherwise "hopping in and out of" their lives.
Otherwise, nice article for the childless IT class. Could be split better though, I did not read it to finish.
- blitzar 2y ago> Every dollar I don't spend on rent is one that can be reinvested back into my kids lives - both short-term (providing for them / enabling weekend quality time / nice holidays) and long-term (building them a house). The cope is strong... "I'm really doing all this for them".
- chasd00 2y agoI didn’t rtfa but if he’s really “hopping in and out” of their children’s lives it would be better for them if he would just stay away. The kids could grieve, heal, and move on vs perpetual emotional whiplash.
- barrkel 2y agoI guess military, oil rig workers etc. should stay out of their children's lives too, right?
- graemep 2y agoHe is not childless though! I think his attitude reflects the persistence of the idea that women are the primary parents and men are "providers" and backup. As a man who became the primary parent as my kids got older I think this is a tragedy. Its not good for women (more work) or men (deprived of fulfilment) or children (less attention from parents overall). We seem to be able to accept that women are capable of taking on traditionally male roles (especially in the workplace) but not that men can take on traditionally female roles (at home or at work).