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Reminds me of my father who'd tell every kid that they're a genius, including myself. It got me motivated to try things, but whenever there was a failure, I fel
by firtoz 2y ago
Reminds me of my father who'd tell every kid that they're a genius, including myself. It got me motivated to try things, but whenever there was a failure, I felt terribly betrayed.
- scotty79 2y agoGeneral advice from psychology is that when it comes to success you should praise the kids for things they control, like effort, time spent, inquisitiveness, concentration not things that are out of their control like talent or luck. Basically praise for what they did, not what they are. When it comes to morality, it's the other way around. You praise kids for being good people when they do something right. Because you want them to internalize identity of a good person and associate it with those behaviors. Internalizing identity of a genius is mostly useless, rarely beneficial, often harmful.
- bityard 2y agoThat sucks. But it's why I keep trying to remind my kinds that even though they are smart, they will fail at things. Failing is a part of learning. Possibly even the most important part. "If you're not making mistakes, you're not trying hard enough."