Social media is making us all a bit more narcissistic, which means less empathy for the person on the other side of the connection. In addition it appears that

Social media is making us all a bit more narcissistic, which means less empathy for the person on the other side of the connection. In addition it appears that women are chasing the same small percentage of men such that these men do not have a real punishment for bad social behavior -- there is one more woman right behind her if she gets offended. (Again, narcissism). Many men primarily want sex, many women primarily want a full fledged relationship, this has been known for decades if not centuries. It's no surprise this is expressed, and exacerbated, in apps and the current times. My suggestion? 1st: realize dating apps are at best a supplement to a health social life. and 2nd Try to get yourself to date that which feels "down" from you, as that's most likely an adjustment in the correct direction given the shift in how we all seem to overestimate our desirablity and underestimate others'. Particularly "down" in the least important parts of a stable long term relationship -- Income over median, looks beyond disgust, and things entirely outside of the person's control (especially if they're healthily compensating for it, like a person who maybe has a scar but a great personality...) > 53% of US adults under 30 It shocks how low this number is. Far below my perception that nearly everyone >22 had.