> but interpersonal bad behavior reflects on your self, professional bad behavior reflects on your institution. Perhaps, but their self or their institution do

> but interpersonal bad behavior reflects on your self, professional bad behavior reflects on your institution. Perhaps, but their self or their institution don't want you, so why would they be concerned with what you think of them? In the olden days where you only had the choice of the 20 people you could realistically get in touch with by horse, there was always an inkling in the back your mind that maybe you'll get desperate in the future, so there would be a lot of fear around completely destroying ties. But now that there are 8 billion people at your immediate disposal, there is no reason to cling to something you clearly don't want. In fact, if their actions give you a sour taste, that's ideal! It will save them from thinking you are a good idea later when they have a desperate moment. If their niceties leaves you still willing to engage even after they realized you're not a good option, that's not a good place for anyone.