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This is exaggerated with remote work. I will always be friendly and kind but these people do not actually know me. Like you said, if they did they may not like

This is exaggerated with remote work. I will always be friendly and kind but these people do not actually know me. Like you said, if they did they may not like what they find out. I am personally more effective remote but obviously that is dependent on the individual. I think its absolutely possible to be effective without having "friends" at work. An interesting observation I have had. Younger coworkers and those without kids tend to want friends at work rather than just showing up and doing work.

bravetraveler 2y ago
> An interesting observation I have had. Younger coworkers and those without kids tend to want friends at work rather than just showing up and doing work. +1 interesting, I've noticed the same while beating the odds so far. The most immediate reason that comes to mind is mentorship. Newer to the work and generally less going on at home. Upsides all around. Learning, networking, and so on. Also probably not that jaded or swayed yet, if we're honest. A lot of gumption left. I know I could single-handedly build and manage a cloud; I've done it. I can't get other people to do it. Tempered expectations find us all. I've always been pretty anti-social when it comes to work. School and home life knocked joy for [most] people out of me. A whole lot of anxiety and habits that make me good at work... and less good at people. It makes sense in the average case: receiving directions is a lot easier than giving/answering for them The only regret I really have is leaving my hometown to work here in the city, to eventually go remote... while still in the city. Now, not old or really that young, I work so much I don't want to go back home. The infinite growth machine demands fodder, however, so I'll probably end up meeting/making more people here instead after great effort.

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This is exaggerated with remote work. I will always be friendly and kind but these people do not actually know me. Like you said, if they did they may not like

by harryquach 2y ago

bravetraveler 2y ago
> An interesting observation I have had. Younger coworkers and those without kids tend to want friends at work rather than just showing up and doing work. +1 interesting, I've noticed the same while beating the odds so far. The most immediate reason that comes to mind is mentorship. Newer to the work and generally less going on at home. Upsides all around. Learning, networking, and so on. Also probably not that jaded or swayed yet, if we're honest. A lot of gumption left. I know I could single-handedly build and manage a cloud; I've done it. I can't get other people to do it. Tempered expectations find us all. I've always been pretty anti-social when it comes to work. School and home life knocked joy for [most] people out of me. A whole lot of anxiety and habits that make me good at work... and less good at people. It makes sense in the average case: receiving directions is a lot easier than giving/answering for them The only regret I really have is leaving my hometown to work here in the city, to eventually go remote... while still in the city. Now, not old or really that young, I work so much I don't want to go back home. The infinite growth machine demands fodder, however, so I'll probably end up meeting/making more people here instead after great effort.