These things don't come out on the first date, they can develop over the years at which point you become stuck with that person (could be children, pets, proper

These things don't come out on the first date, they can develop over the years at which point you become stuck with that person (could be children, pets, property and other stuff). Many people are simply trapped - they cannot leave because they won't have money to get some place to live, they got cut out of their friends / family and are controlled by fear ("If you leave me I am going to kill myself and leave a note that you did it, you'll go to jail" or "Without me you are nothing, you are worthless, you won't find anyone and you'll die alone" etc).