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> Men's friendships often involve good natured jabs It's true, they often do. And I find it to be one of the least valuable and most insecure aspects of friend
by standardUser 2y ago
> Men's friendships often involve good natured jabs
It's true, they often do. And I find it to be one of the least valuable and most insecure aspects of friendship. My best relationships with any gender, romantic or otherwise, have involved little or no negging and a whole lot of honest communication and building each other up.
- dyauspitr 2y agoI completely disagree. Jabs are a way of being able to tell someone something without bottling it up or getting too serious about it. It’s infinitely better than sitting down and “having a talk about it” which sours the relationship. They’re invaluable and without them relationships feel shallow.
- maxbond 2y agoThere are many other ways to accomplish that. Eg, using other forms of humor to blunt your remarks. Jabs do sour relationships with people who aren't open to being spoken to in that way. Your previous comment about people becoming "too sensitive" makes it sound like some of your relationships may have soured in that way (speculation, I don't know your life; if you deny it, I'll believe you). Being tactful means feeling out the vibe, jabbing at people who appreciate it, and taking another tact with people who don't. The world isn't dualistic. There are more kinds of people and more ways of interacting than are dreamt of in your philosophy. If there are people you don't get along with and don't want to be friends with, that's fine, live your best life. It's the same way for me, and GP said the same as well. But understand that's a choice you've made because it's right for you, not something objective or universal, and try not to judge others for making a different choice.