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Most people, in a city, or even in a rural environment, work 5 days a week, have a roof over their heads, sometimes go out to eat, sometimes go to walks in the
by GeoAtreides 2y ago
Most people, in a city, or even in a rural environment, work 5 days a week, have a roof over their heads, sometimes go out to eat, sometimes go to walks in the parks, sometimes they host get-togethers at their homes.
And so you can be friends with most people in your city. Because they're not jet setters, famous people, politicians, or other 1% special people with VERY different lifestyle than most people.
- seba_dos1 2y agoIt's rather hard to bond over having a roof over one's head. But sure, it's not impossible... Seems like you're just entirely missing the OP's point.
- GeoAtreides 2y agoHobbies and shared passions are not the only things people can bond over. You know, sometimes I need to remind myself this site has people from other cultures and also significantly younger than me.
- seba_dos1 2y agoOf course not. They just happen to be the easiest things to bond over. Yeah, you certainly do. Even your list of what "most people" share mostly doesn't apply to this white straight thirty-something mid-class guy living with his partner in the capital of an European country writing this comment to you right now. And regardless of that, it fails to be relevant in the context of OP's post - he found the lifestyles to be different enough to matter, and you come here and reply "no, you didn't".
- GeoAtreides 2y agoThat's not what I said, though. What I said was the lifestyles are not actual that different and to stop segregating and splintering into smaller and smaller tribes.
- seba_dos1 2y agoAnd what I keep saying is that you're missing the point. It doesn't matter that the "lifestyle is not that different" (which is arguable), what matters is that it was different enough to make bonding and fitting in harder, which is hardly unbelievable. And yes, there absolutely is a huge variety in people's lifestyles, even within the same social classes and even when you can still find such similarities as having a roof above one's head. Ignoring it and offering "we're all the same species" instead does not bring anything valuable into the discussion and certainly won't help anyone make friends.
- GeoAtreides 2y agoI'm not missing the point, I'm absolutely disagreeing with it.
- AStonesThrow 2y agoYou're right. I just averaged together one million people, assumed a perfectly spherical urban metro core, and eliminated factors like air resistance and pollution, and now I have a 40-hour-a-week job! Thank you!