> just move to a big city where people in their 20/30s/40s are available to hang out and men have hobbies? I’d venture to say I hear about more folks who feel

> just move to a big city where people in their 20/30s/40s are available to hang out and men have hobbies? I’d venture to say I hear about more folks who feel alone in big cities than small. And it’s not necessarily “latent homophobia” of the kind where you think people who are gay should be subject to hell, fire, and brimstone. More one where you worry about being the outsider or labeled as something you aren’t and having all the cliches that come with it attached to you. But what do I know? I’m just a cis, straight, marrried, childless, white man in his 30s, living in the in the city and working in tech after spending his 20s in the arts. The guy who felt weird not coming out in college when all the folks around him were (I actually tried to and then realized I had nothing to come out from)