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In my experience the thing men have a problem with is not having too technical hobbies or too much focus on task or whatever people say. We just never learn to
by namaria 2y ago
In my experience the thing men have a problem with is not having too technical hobbies or too much focus on task or whatever people say.
We just never learn to be vulnerable and nice. Just by opening up and having real conversations and telling my friends I like them and I value them has been the real way to bond. Who knew, being open and honest works!
It's not about what you do or who you do it with. It's about telling them they are important to you.
- johnnyanmac 2y agoNot sure it is a problem per se (people bond in different ways), but yes. Often times when you invite male friends over you have an objective. Be it to watch the game, twiddle with a project, or just drink on the lawn absorbing sun. And people just have so little time. I pick solitary hobbies because I know we'll never get some team hobby done. So if suddenly we can't meet for a month+ I can at least finish that video game as opposed to something like a D&D campaign that will just fester. And yeah, that mentality is part of the problem. But I can't make people want to hang out. I've been regularly going to meetups now and it's about the same as pre-COVID, where instead of forming a deep bond with a few people, you get maybe 1-2 regulars and a revolving door of new people. People are just so flaky these days (I imagine many for good reason, but still).